During the past few weeks, both of my sons had a birthday. Mason turned 8 years old and Bryson turned 3 years old. WHEN did this happen?!?! How is it that I find myself almost a 40-year-old man with two boys growing up so fast? The truth is that it helps me realize just how little time I have left with these precious gifts that the Lord has blessed me with.

What am I doing with that time? Am I too busy? Am I putting other things before them? Am I really making the most of the little moments I have with them? What am I being intentional about teaching my boys to help them become men?

That’s the real question. Am I raising boys or am I training men? How am I training my sons to worship and love God, the right way to treat a woman, to look a man in the eye when you are talking to him, to say yes sir, to be considerate, to put others first, to work hard, to be honest and have integrity, to be a man of your word, to be a good friend, to give, to love, to laugh, and to weep?

John 5:19 says, “The son can only do what he sees his father doing, because whatever the father does the son also does.” Now I know this is talking about the relationship between Jesus and God the Father, but what a powerful reminder to our sons and us as earthly fathers. This verse haunts me sometimes, “Whatever the father does the son also does”.

Am I showing my boys with my actions how to be a man? This is what my dad did for me. My dad was not the smartest man I knew, he was not the richest man I knew or even the strongest man I knew, but my Dad was the BEST man I knew and will ever know! He showed me the way by his actions and not just his words.

Psalms says that sons are a heritage from the Lord; they are like arrows in the hands of a warrior. It is my job to “aim” them in the right direction! Dads, how is your aim? What direction are you pointing your children in?

My life commitment is when I walk off the last platform that the Lord allows me to stand on, that those who are the closest to me will still respect me and love me. I want my actions to never compromise my integrity and my character. When I look back on the trail that I have blazed I desire to be happy that my sons followed in my footsteps.